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People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason, you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (any way); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

With three simple rules

Life gets so insanely complex at times I wonder how the majority of us make it. Honestly, think about the trillion things that go through your head per day and ask yourself: how much of it do I need to survive (physically or mentally)? It’s hilarious when you think about it…wait, that wasn’t something I need to do to survive. ;)

I look at how much the average person today in 2004 ad needs to be concerned with vs. the people of 4 bc. No really I am going this route…

4 bc version of agentzero – location? I donno, say Rome:

• Sun shines on my face, I wake up.
• I throw yesterdays clothes on with no concern for how they fit me
• I toss the previous nights trash out on the street
• I walk over to the public bath house to go about my business
• I head out to my vocational job, because I wouldn’t make a great soldier
• Maybe I want some entertainment so I watch the gladiator games
• I walk home for some dinner…something I picked up on the way home as I walked thought the market.
• Total days walk, maybe 5 miles

2004 ad version of agentzero – location? I donno, say Michigan:

• I have to set three alarms in the morning to make sure I wake up on time…hopefully I do and I don’t get to work late.
• I look at the overflowing wastebasket with packaging from anything I bought and stress about it sitting on the floor. I get a plastic garbage bag and empty all the trash. When I open the door to put the trash at the curb I see the garbage man driving off as if the little bastard knew I was standing in my boxers putting the trash out – I think he likes to see me run outside in the winter.
• I go inside to take a nice relaxing shower that I now have all of 5 minutes to take since I woke up late and I had to chase the garbage man again. What happens? The f-ing water is ice cold and there is no hope in waiting 10 min for it to heat up again so I take a 2 min shower yelling the whole time “this is f*$#!ing COLD!”
• I get dressed and find cloths I just washed laying on the floor that are now wrinkled and look like I slept in them…now I have to iron them.
• I drive 45 minutes to my job in traffic that is bumper to bumper…normal drive with without traffic? 20 min. The only thing I have to listen to in the car is some radio jockey talking to soccer moms that cheat on their husbands…or the polka channel.
• I walk into work and stress that I can’t get my email and there is 4 people at my office door wanting to know where their email is.
• If I am lucky someone brought doughnuts or bagels or SOMETHING and left it in the lunch room so I can get some food in my system before I “solve the worlds problems” (inside joke)
• My day draws to a close and I head home in the same insane traffic
• I get home and chose to go to a movie for entertainment and I have to sever my arm because seeing a movie now costs an arm and a leg (usually if I have a date I tell her to cut her leg off – hey! It’s women’s lib!)
• Eventually I head home and fall asleep to repeat the process all over again.

So what was the point of that? Just to show that your day is probably similar to mine and throughout your day there are a trillion variables that help add to the stress in your life. Maybe to save ourselves we just all just need a moment to bring it down a notch and just look at life a little more simple.

Maybe we just unplug for a bit…well you can still check your email and be unplugged, right?

“Eat when you are hungry, sleep when you are tired, and cry when you are sad.”

-A Zen saying

But looking over the map

I can be a deep thinker, but I don’t know if I would consider myself a “deep person” – it’s really all about being over analytical and always trying to find an answer. Sometimes I feel like I am a little misguided or wondering blind trying to figure out where I am going…let alone finding the right road to drive down.

That situation helps bring out my rants when I am in a state of “WTF?!?!” [What The F**k – for the uninitiated].

So the question(s) this weekend were about destiny and fate. Do you write your own book of life or is it written for you? Maybe there are just chapters with subject or topic headings, but we fill in the white space. Is it possible to write your own future? Maybe, but only if you skip a few details and focus on the concept of your future. It seems that the more specific we are about wanting something in life the more frustrated we can get when our dream becomes reality, but there is just one or two things missing…almost as if “well that was great!! However, it was a little better in my dream.” No one needs a let down when a dream becomes reality; we should embrace the moment.

So how do you choose (remember it always comes back to choice!) what dreams to follow and what ones to let go? After all there is much to be gained from the quote “Be careful what you wish for.” Many might say that you don’t have to be as careful in what you dream of; but why? Dreams and wishes can intertwine and mold one another. Don’t get me wrong I think we should all dream big and follow our dreams; I am just asking when it’s okay to throw caution to the wind and where we need to ground ourselves. Is it subjective? Meaning either on a case by case dream/wish or even on a case by case deal with a person…some people can handle just going for the gold and others need to be more grounded.

What power can be gained or lost by following our hearts, dreams and wishes?

“To succeed you have to believe in something with such passion that it becomes a reality.”

– Anita Roddick