They might be around the corner
This is really a mini-spawn of a comment and post on Christie’s blog…but it makes for a good post.
To start: I don’t have all the answers! :) To be quite honest, I have not found love with this strategy yet, but I have met some amazing people and I have a little more hope that there are more women out there that are my “type”…which is a nice feeling. I might be in the same boat as you; well I’m not looking for a guy, but…
I came up with this little “plan” if you will. I meet/talk/email/IM/Whatever with new people often, so I pick their brain. When I meet a new girl I don’t care if she’s married or has a boyfriend; if she’s my type I want to know where she hangs out and what she does in her free time. I don’t ask HER out and I don’t usually ask them to set me up with their friends. So why do I ask about where she hangs out and what she does for fun? Well, because she is my “type” and if I know where she hangs out I might find other girls like her hanging out there as well. I try to stick to the adage that good people keep good company. In the end I brushed up on my small talk, made a new friend and I got a little dish on were to find Miss Might-Be-Right…she had a conversation with someone that wasn’t hitting on her and made a new friend, she might have found someone for one of her girlfriends that’s been looking for someone like me. It’s a win-win.
I suggested to one of my girl friends (note: not girlfriend, girl that’s a friend) that she hang out in places she likes. She likes to read and she loves Starbucks, so I told her to start spending time reading there. She doesn’t have to chug 40 gallons of coffee to go there; she can just go there and read. I figured eventually one of the guys there might get the courage to talk to her -or- she might get the courage to talk to one of the guys there. It’s not the perfect ideal, but it’s a start and you have to start somewhere.
I suggest that you hang out in your element…if you like working out, keep your eyes peeled at the gym. If you like the mall, look for guys that are there often (you might find a shopping partner). If you like dancing, check out a local swing/salsa bar. Don’t get bummed when you don’t meet Mr/Miss Perfect the first night out. Give it time and just have fun. Most people would rather approach a someone that looks like they is fun and is having fun then a someone that looks like they is just looking for Mr/Miss Right.